It may seem early, but now is the perfect time to start thinking about closure. We encourage every mentor to plan a meaningful closure with their mentee. Whether you are saying “so-long for the summer,” or “goodbye” forever, the steps remain the same: reiterate your friendship; celebrate your happy memories; and leave nothing positive unsaid about your mentee. Your goal is to make sure your mentee knows they are amazing and that you remain friends no matter what!
Leave Nothing Positive Unsaid
Now is the time to express to your mentee just how much their friendship means to you. Share what you have enjoyed about this year, and reasons you are proud of and grateful for your mentee (be specific). Remark upon how much you’ve seen them grow. For example, you can say something like: “Spending time with you has been the best part of my week, and I have learned so much by watching your example of being willing to try new things.”
Celebrate Your Happy Memories
Do you have a favorite memory with your mentee? Tell them about it! Reiterate that you cherish the time you’ve spent together, and you will always be rooting for their success even if you are no longer matched.
Model Honest and Clear Communication
Your mentee is still learning a lot about interpersonal relationships and friendship dynamics. Your communication with your mentee should be kind, empathetic, and age-appropriately honest. If you know now you will not be able to return to mentor in the fall, be upfront about that with us and your mentee. If you plan to return in the fall, express that intention.
Promise Only What You Can Deliver
We can’t control the future, so don’t promise that you’ll be back. Instead say something like, “If all goes well, I hope we can meet up again in the fall.” Life happens and unexpected changes occur. Having a positive closure experience is extremely beneficial for children, but it’s especially important for those who have had important adults in their lives disappear without warning.
With some planning and following the above steps, you can create a positive closure experience that celebrates your friendship, and helps your mentee build confidence and resilience no matter how long you’ve been matched! As always, your Mentor Director is happy to provide you with any additional guidance and support through the closure process.